Honey, We Need To Talk.
Read dis from da Lime magazine a few daes ago, and I found dat its kinda interesting.
The "Are We Or Are We Not" Talk:
Tell-Tale signs: The biggest qns on everyone's minds: "how do I know he/she likes me?" We can't be 100% sure, but dere're some fail-proof ways to tell. Dones he expect to see you every wkend? Is he calling every 2hrs? Does he make plans for da both of u weeks in advance? Has he stopped seeing other gers, even dat buxomy babe he used to have a massive crush on? Congrats, he probably already tinks u as his gf, althou he may nt admit it.
What To Say: Now, you dun wanna cum across as pushy n too presumptuous. If you're nt sure, try da 'this cute guy saes...' trick. As in, "This cute guy I met asked me if I have a bf." If your (almost) bf shows any sign of jealousy, it's almost a sure thing dat he tinks u're his gal, and off-limits. Dis is da best time to ask, "So are we together?" There, done. If he says yes, yay, pop da champagne! If he says no, just laugh it off n be cool bout it. Or throw him off by asking, "Then can I have ur best fren's no.?"
The "We Just Had Sex. Now What?" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: So things gt a little too passionate in da bedroom n u well, did it. Depending on ur morals n beliefs, dis could b da most awkward moment as a couple in ur unmarried life. Is he basking in da afterglow n getting all cuddly n loving? Or is she avoiding ur eyes n scrambling to put on her clothes n scoot off? Are u guys feeling all loved up, or 'Omigawd, wat da hell have I done?' Either way, u nid to talk dis one out.
What To Say: We'll spare u da 'I feel so close to u rite now' theatrics, but a suitably sweet opening line isn't a bad idea. Ask, "I guess dis means we've taken our r/s to a new level. Wat u tink?" Unless u dun mind sleeping ard just for da heck of it, we reckon you'd wanna clear dis impt bit up 1st before deciding if you wanna do da hokey-pokey with him/her again. Warning: If he/she says, "Nahz, dis is one-night stand lah!", dun get hysterical n demand he/she marries u. Sorry, u only have urself to blame for nt checking ur r/s status 1st before u shed ur clothes.
The "I need Time-Out" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: You dun look forward to his/her calls anymore. Gruelling rounds of SMS tennis is a thing of da past. You still love him/her, but you're getting irritated dat u dun have time for urself anymore. Perhaps, da best way to put da sparks back is a little time apart. After all, dey say absence makes da heart grow fonder.
What To Say: Time-out does not mean ur r/s is headed for Doomsville. Say, "I love you, but I nid abit more time for myself. Can we take a 2wk time-out and see how things go?" Warning: you may leave ur partner feeling horribly insecure n running into another hunk/chick's consoling arms. If u wan to give ur r/s another go during dis stretch, make sure ur partner is well aware dat a timeout does not mean a break-off.
The "Baby, It's Not You. It's Me" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: You find urself making up all sorts of ridiculous excuses just dat u dun have to go on a date with ur partner. You introduce ur partner as ur fren instead of bf/gf. When all else fails and u want out, you may tink dropping a bomb on him/her could break his/her heart. But looking at da long run, you're doing more gd den harm. Staying with someone out of obligation, fear or anyting else other den true love is exactly why a r/s will fail!
What To Say: Frankly, dere's no easy way to break a heart. Be fair buy firm. Dun say hurtful things just to spite him/her - after all, you've once loved each other. Try, "I'm sorry, but things are really not working out for me. I dun wanna waste anymore of ur time when I know I no longer feel da same way. Sorry." Dun dig up ur old grouses bout him/her if u can help it. It's always beta to keep a fren den make an enemy. Besides, jilted lovers make da scariest stalkers!
The "Will You Marry Me?" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: Prior to popping da qns, he wld have dropped hints like asking if u wanna apply for a HDB flat together (very Sporean and unromantic, we know) or taking a sudden interest in bridal magazines. If he suggests starting a joint acc, or dat u spend ur wkends checking out kitchen tiles n door knobs, we tell ya, dis guy has 'commitment' written all over him. If alarm bells start sounding in ur head, it's best to tell him dat u're not ready, instead of putting him thru da whole shebang of choosing da rock, rehearsing his proposal n then facing rejection. But if u wanna spend da rest of ur life with him, show interest by enthusiastically planning ur future together. Baby names, anyone?
What To Say: "Will you marry me?" Duhz.
So, which Talk do u n ur partner belongs to now? *grinz*
Time: 1.21 AM.
The "Are We Or Are We Not" Talk:
Tell-Tale signs: The biggest qns on everyone's minds: "how do I know he/she likes me?" We can't be 100% sure, but dere're some fail-proof ways to tell. Dones he expect to see you every wkend? Is he calling every 2hrs? Does he make plans for da both of u weeks in advance? Has he stopped seeing other gers, even dat buxomy babe he used to have a massive crush on? Congrats, he probably already tinks u as his gf, althou he may nt admit it.
What To Say: Now, you dun wanna cum across as pushy n too presumptuous. If you're nt sure, try da 'this cute guy saes...' trick. As in, "This cute guy I met asked me if I have a bf." If your (almost) bf shows any sign of jealousy, it's almost a sure thing dat he tinks u're his gal, and off-limits. Dis is da best time to ask, "So are we together?" There, done. If he says yes, yay, pop da champagne! If he says no, just laugh it off n be cool bout it. Or throw him off by asking, "Then can I have ur best fren's no.?"
The "We Just Had Sex. Now What?" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: So things gt a little too passionate in da bedroom n u well, did it. Depending on ur morals n beliefs, dis could b da most awkward moment as a couple in ur unmarried life. Is he basking in da afterglow n getting all cuddly n loving? Or is she avoiding ur eyes n scrambling to put on her clothes n scoot off? Are u guys feeling all loved up, or 'Omigawd, wat da hell have I done?' Either way, u nid to talk dis one out.
What To Say: We'll spare u da 'I feel so close to u rite now' theatrics, but a suitably sweet opening line isn't a bad idea. Ask, "I guess dis means we've taken our r/s to a new level. Wat u tink?" Unless u dun mind sleeping ard just for da heck of it, we reckon you'd wanna clear dis impt bit up 1st before deciding if you wanna do da hokey-pokey with him/her again. Warning: If he/she says, "Nahz, dis is one-night stand lah!", dun get hysterical n demand he/she marries u. Sorry, u only have urself to blame for nt checking ur r/s status 1st before u shed ur clothes.
The "I need Time-Out" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: You dun look forward to his/her calls anymore. Gruelling rounds of SMS tennis is a thing of da past. You still love him/her, but you're getting irritated dat u dun have time for urself anymore. Perhaps, da best way to put da sparks back is a little time apart. After all, dey say absence makes da heart grow fonder.
What To Say: Time-out does not mean ur r/s is headed for Doomsville. Say, "I love you, but I nid abit more time for myself. Can we take a 2wk time-out and see how things go?" Warning: you may leave ur partner feeling horribly insecure n running into another hunk/chick's consoling arms. If u wan to give ur r/s another go during dis stretch, make sure ur partner is well aware dat a timeout does not mean a break-off.
The "Baby, It's Not You. It's Me" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: You find urself making up all sorts of ridiculous excuses just dat u dun have to go on a date with ur partner. You introduce ur partner as ur fren instead of bf/gf. When all else fails and u want out, you may tink dropping a bomb on him/her could break his/her heart. But looking at da long run, you're doing more gd den harm. Staying with someone out of obligation, fear or anyting else other den true love is exactly why a r/s will fail!
What To Say: Frankly, dere's no easy way to break a heart. Be fair buy firm. Dun say hurtful things just to spite him/her - after all, you've once loved each other. Try, "I'm sorry, but things are really not working out for me. I dun wanna waste anymore of ur time when I know I no longer feel da same way. Sorry." Dun dig up ur old grouses bout him/her if u can help it. It's always beta to keep a fren den make an enemy. Besides, jilted lovers make da scariest stalkers!
The "Will You Marry Me?" Talk.
Tell-Tale signs: Prior to popping da qns, he wld have dropped hints like asking if u wanna apply for a HDB flat together (very Sporean and unromantic, we know) or taking a sudden interest in bridal magazines. If he suggests starting a joint acc, or dat u spend ur wkends checking out kitchen tiles n door knobs, we tell ya, dis guy has 'commitment' written all over him. If alarm bells start sounding in ur head, it's best to tell him dat u're not ready, instead of putting him thru da whole shebang of choosing da rock, rehearsing his proposal n then facing rejection. But if u wanna spend da rest of ur life with him, show interest by enthusiastically planning ur future together. Baby names, anyone?
What To Say: "Will you marry me?" Duhz.
So, which Talk do u n ur partner belongs to now? *grinz*
Time: 1.21 AM.
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